The Art & Science of Psychology & Magic

A woman was in her study room.

She appeared very sad and down.

She picked up her pen and started writing the following:

I did not get an interview for the jobs I applied for.

My Employment Pass was rejected and my husband could not get back to Singapore, so I had to travel to India.

My Mother is so sad and I feel helpless.

My Family lives all over the world and I didn’t get to go home to England for Christmas or New year.

My Father was terminally ill and died at the young age of 58.

My Grandad also passed away this year

a few days before my dad.

At the end she wrote, this was such a bad year!

Then, the woman’s husband came into the room and saw her looking lost and confused, he saw the paper she had written and gave her a kiss on the forehead and left the room. A few moments later he came into the room and handed her a piece of paper, he placed it in his wife’s hand.

When she saw the paper it had her name on the top and it said:

I got married this year to the love of my life

and my Father was able to be at my

wedding as well as many other relatives

and friends who flew over at that time.

I did not get the jobs I applied for,

but I have set up a private practice

as well as helping out with multiple business’s.

This has led to happenstance opportunities

taking form in my career path, and my husband’s, which has allowed me to help carry on my Father’s legacy.

I got to go to India, where I found myself again,

had a spiritual awakening,

and lots of time with my new husband.

We also found a solution to our visa issues

and my husband was granted his EP,

which means everything is falling into place.

My Father may have passed away at 58, but he lived to have my brother and me, he met my mum at 18 and they had kids at 23, which meant he had lots of time with us. I got to spend so much time living at home with my parents and then, when his illness took a turn for the worse, I helped care for him. Most people I’ve read about become depressed and aggressive as the illness progresses, but Dad turned mellow and appeared quite serene. He even said when I asked him how he was feeling one day, “I’m happy darling”. I said, “What is making you happy dad?” and he said with a big smile on his face and a glow in his eyes, “Because I am around you and your mum and the people I love”. Some people die very young, too young to even have kids. My dad lived to teach us enough over the years to know how to live without him if we ever had to. That is something to be grateful for.

My Mother is pushing herself to do things out of her comfort zone despite her grief and has two kids who will do anything to make sure she’s ok and as happy as possible given the circumstances. She met my Dad young and had 40 years with him, which is an awesome amount of time. I have been able to help her a lot with all their personal affairs all because of my Father’s teachings. My Family and friends live all over the world, I have so many places to visit and reasons to go back home, which is such a luxury.

At the end it said: This year was a year of blessings and every little thing you do is magic. The woman was amazed and so happy at the interpretation of the events in her life that year!

Moral of the Story: It is essential for us to see, that in our lives, it is not happiness that makes us grateful, but gratitude that makes us happy and in that happy grateful state, life becomes magical. Always look for the blessings in life, no matter how bad the circumstances may seem. Gratitude is the formula for an abundant and happy life!

Make Life Magical!

First, let’s start by defining magic: Magic can be defined as finding something wonderful in everyday life, despite challenges. It can be described as a power of sorts that influences events by using universal forces internally and externally. Einstein once said “everything is energy and that’s all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality. It can be no other way. This is not philosophy. This is physics.” Here at tidylodge we deliver products and services that are aimed to inspire, flare creativity and excite our clients. We blend our spiritual and scientific practices to create a world of wonder that leaves our clients with a sense of awe and excitement. We define spirituality simply as the search for meaning and purpose in life.

There are three components that make up a magic trick and there are three ingredients to “Real Magic”, they are; Transforming Our Energy, Psychological Programming, Intervention of Human and/or Spiritual Beings. When all three are used together with a sprinkling of belief, they create Magic in our lives. Prayer is also a form of magic, as is meditation, manifesting, gratitude and setting intentions for the day. We have heard in ancient texts that man has lived hundreds of years, defied giants, exhibited feats of strength almost inhuman and turned water into wine. We know that there is transformative power in fairytales for adults as well as children. Magic is everywhere, whether you are an atheist, or religious, a freethinker, spiritual or a mixture.

Electrons in atoms and molecules can make transitions in energy levels by emitting or absorbing a photon whose energy must be exactly equal to the energy difference between the two levels. Since atoms make up everything, everything is energy and therefore can be transformed. To raise the energy or vibrations in human beings we do actually have the power of words, thought, body language and emotions to change the way we feel. In the wise words of Mr Sigmund Freud, “Words and magic were in the beginning one and the same thing, and even today words retain much of their magical powers.” It is often said in certain circles the quote, ‘you do not have the power to make someone feel something’. Unfortunately and fortunately, however you choose to look at it, this is not entirely true as Don Miguel describes in the chapter Be Impeccable with your Word from The Four Agreements: “Through the word you express your creative power. It is through the word that you manifest everything. Regardless of what language you speak, your intent manifests through the word. What you dream, what you feel and what you really are, will all be manifested through the word… The word is the most powerful tool you have as a human; it is the tool of magic. But like a sword with two edges, your word can create the most beautiful dream, or your word can destroy everything around you.”

We know that the word has ultimate power to destroy, as we have seen it used for evil by ‘you know who’ during the first and second world war. Yet it has been used for good, love and all things magical by Mother Theresa and Mahatma Gandhi to name but a few. However, we also have the power to dispose of poisonous words by attempting not to take them personally, this is next level mind control though. In our programmes at tidylodge we look at this area amongst others to aid you in your quest to make life magical.

You may have heard in various circles of influence that magic is evil or the work of some negative entity. However, we shall dispel that myth now, like anything, used in the wrong hands or out of context, it can be detrimental. Take the narcissist who uses psychology to manipulate the masses, or the religious fanatic who tells people they will go to hell or believes in violence and sacrifice as an act of God. Einstein believed in both the concept of God and theories of Science.

At tidylodge we believe in the magic definition mentioned earlier which is about light and goodness and the Magic Model. Which is, if all three components are used in conjunction with a person’s beliefs and in positive harmony; then we can infect ourselves and the world at large with love, compassion and kindness. That is what “real magic” is all about. So, if we combine our logical mind and our wise mind, a little DBT (Dialectical Behavioural Therapy) trick, we can see that creating magic in our everyday lives is not only logical and wise, but a magnificent addition to integrating our lives as a whole. Thus, seeing the mystery and wonder in our everyday lives. It is extremely uplifting too, to feel that spark of magic.

tidylodge Magic Model for “real magic” is as follows:

  1. Transform, Raise & Direct Energy & Vibrational Frequencies (how to change and redirect your energy through thoughts, words, feelings and senses)
  2. Psychological Programming, theories, evidenced based orientations (the scientifically evidenced based theories we utilise to create “real magic” in people’s lives)
  3. Intervention of Magiccraftee themselves, Magiccrafter, Spiritual & Other Beings (the client, therapist-coach and support network harnessed as part of the transformative element)

We believe in partnering with you to create a Magical world where we each find blessings in our everyday lives, despite challenges. When you feel your spark has gone in any area of your life, remember the Magic Model and utilise it to harness the power in that area of your life. Magic is real for us and it can be for you too. Make positive use of the tools at tidylodge, engage the people in your life and mercifully utilise the energy of the universe to create your everyday Magic.

Make Life Magical!


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